Reading Resources

For Grown Ups

A Guide for Fathers – When a Baby Dies, Tim Nelson, A Place to Remember, 2004

Don’t Take My Grief Away – Doug Manning and Glenda Stansbury, In Sight Books, 2005

When There Are No Words: Finding Your Way to Cope with Loss and Grief, Charlie Walton, 1999

The Bereaved Parent, Harriet Schiff. Personal account of a mother’s story when her child dies.

Beyond Grief: A guide for Recovering from the Death of a Loved One – Carol Staudacher, New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 1987. (Specific suggestions on how to cope with everyday life)

The Courage to Grieve – Judy Tatlebaum, 1984

Does Anybody Else Hurt This Bad and Live? Carlene Vester Eneroth, Otis Publications

Stillborn, The Invisible Death– John DeFrain

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart– Surviving the Death of Your Baby- Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D.

I’ll Hold You In Heaven – Jack Hayford, 2003. Healing and hope for the parent who has lost a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion or early infant death

When Hello Means Goodbye – Pat Schwiebert, RN and Paul Kirk, MD, 1985

Miscarriage – A Shattered Dream- Sherokee Ilse – Linda Hammer Burns, 2006

Empty Arms – Sherokee Ilse, Coping with miscarriage, stillbirth and infant death

When A Baby Dies– Irving G. Leon. Psychotherapy for pregnancy and newborn loss

Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion, and Other Pregnancy Loss – Kim Kluger-Bell, 2000

A Silent Sorrow– Ingrid Kohn, M.S.W., Perry-Lynn Moffit, Isabelle A. Wilkins, M.D. Pregnancy Loss guidance and support

When Pregnancy Fails– Judith Borg, Susan Lasker. Families coping with miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth and infant death

Miscarriage – Women Sharing from the heart– Marie Allen, Shelly Marks, 1993

Journeys: Stories of Pregnancy After Loss – Amy L. Abbey, 2006


PARENTING BOOKS

Kids Are Worth It! :Giving Your Child The Gift Of Inner Discipline – Barbara Coloroso, 2002

Parenting Through Crisis: Helping Kids in Times of Loss, Grief, and Change, Barbara Coloroso, 2001

The Secret of Parenting: How to Be in Charge of Today’s Kids–from Toddlers to Preteens–Without Threats or Punishment – Anthony E. Wolf Ph.D., 2000

Talking With Children About Loss, Maria Trozzi, 1999

MISCARRIAGE / STILLBIRTH

Coping With a Miscarriage – Hank Pizer, Christine O’Brien, 1981 – Provides information on both physical and emotional aspects of miscarriage; includes glossary of medical and scientific terms commonly used.

Miscarriage – Ann Oakley, Ann McPherson and Helen Roberts, 1984 – This book covers the medical and emotional aspects of miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy.

Miscarriage: A Book for Parents Experiencing Fetal Death – Marvin and Joy Johnson, 1983 – 24-pg. booklet affirms the grief of miscarriage, deals with the parent’s feelings, presents ways to memorialize the baby, and gives helpful coping tips.

Miscarriage: the Facts – Gillian C.L. Lachelin, 1996 – Provides understanding of the events of early pregnancy and factors that adversely affect the embryo. Causes and preventive treatments discussed. Also advice on future pregnancies.

Parenthood Lost: Healing the Pain after Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death – Michael R. Berman M.D.

Life Touches Life: A Mother’s Story of Stillbirth and Healing– Lorraine Ash, 2004

Preventing Miscarriage: The Good News– Jonathan Scher, MD. and Carol Dix, 1990 – An excellent book outlining the possible causes of miscarriages. Particularly useful to those women who have had multiple losses.

Mothers of Thyme: Customs and Rituals of Infertility and Miscarriage – Janet Sha, 1990 – This is a look at infertility and pregnancy loss through the eyes of experienced couples. The author has drawn anecdotes from house-hold companions, midwifery and medical books, legends and folklore to produce this unique collection.

Motherhood Lost: A Feminist Account of Pregnancy Loss in America– Linda Layne, 2002

Miscarriage: Women’s Experiences and Needs – Christine Mouler, 1990 – Discusses the emotional consequences of miscarriages.

So Few Memories, So Much Love by Shattered Dreams – An exquisitively detailed baby memory book. Specially created to help you record the events prior to, during and following the loss of your baby. Helps you work through the process of grief and pain of loss. Offers a place to express your thoughts and feelings about your loss. Embraces the importance of mourning your baby. Promotes positive resolution of your grief. Available for $10.95 through Born to Love (www.borntolove.com).

Ended Beginnings by Claudia Panuthos and Catherine Romeo, 1984 – An excellent book for anyone who may encounter pregnancy-related loss. Realistic suggestions are helpful in restoring physical, mental emotional and spiritual health.

After the Death of a Child: Living with Loss through the Years – Ann K. Finkbeiner, 1998


PERSONAL STORIES

An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination: A Memoir, Elizabeth McCracken, 2010

Mother less Child – Jacquelyn Mitchard, 1985 – A personal story of a woman who has an ectopic pregnancy and then faces the turmoil of infertility. Eventually she and her husband adopt an infant son.

Dancing With the Midwives- Ann Faison, 2011 – Beautifully written and illustrated by the author following the stillborn death of her daughter.

Nothing to Cry About – Barbara J. Berg, 1981 – Novel about a young woman who waits till her late twenties to plan a child, only to suffer a late miscarriage, a difficult 2nd pregnancy which results in a stillbirth, but does go on to deliver a health baby 3rd time round.

Having Your First Baby After Thirty: A Personal Journey from Infertility to Childbirth – Elizabeth Fuller, 1983 – Her own story, from the work-up, temp. charts, fertility drugs to laparoscopy, two miscarriages, amniocentisis and childbirth classes.

Tender Miscarriage: An Epiphany – Paula Saffire, 1989 – A story of the author’s personal tragedy and how she seeks to transform the pain, grief and loss into a personal epiphany.

Handling the Heartbreak of Miscarriage – Nancy Rue – Sensitively written personal account of how she found healing and growth from the tragedy of miscarriage, written from a Christian perspective.

Journey to Motherhood – Alison Freeland, 1990 – One woman’s true story of becoming a mother of a healthy baby after 3 miscarriages.

I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery – Ellen M. DuBois, 2006

Miscarriage: Women Sharing from the Heart – Marie Allen, 1993


POETRY ON LOSS

Stolen Joy– Ann Barney. Healing after infertility and infant loss

Go Gently– David Morawetz, 1991. A parent’s grief

She Was Born, She Died – Marion Cohen. A collection of poems following the death of an infant

The Limits of Miracles – Collected by Marion Cohen. Poems about the loss of babies

The Promise of the Rainbow- Patti Fochi. After a child dies

Limit of Miracles: Poems About the Loss of Babies edited by M. Cohen, 1985 – Poignant and sensitive poems give consoling affirmations for those suffering a pregnancy loss.

A Little Book of Comfort – Anthony Guest. A collection of poems.

Mourning Sickness – Stories and Poems about Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss – Missy Martin, 2008

The Anguish of Loss – Julie Frisch, 1988 – The realities of life and loss confronted in a direct and emotional manner through sculpture and poetry.


BOOKS ON GRIEVING

Motherhood and Mourning – Larry G. Peppers and Ronald J. Knapp, 1980 – Common characteristics of grieving mothers. The stages of grief and problems in relationships, subsequent pregnancies and community support.

Good Mourning: Help and Understanding in Time of Pregnancy Loss – Judith Gordon and Nancy Gordon DeHammer, 1990 – A compassionate, creative approach to healthy resolution of grief and acceptance of pregnancy loss. Tips on journal-keeping and it’s therapeutic value. Written from a Christian perspective.

An Ambitious Sort of Grief: Diary of Pregnancy and Neonatal Loss – Marion Cohen – 120 page book expressing the many aspects of a mother’s bereavement, grief and recovery.

Free to Grieve: Healing and Encouragement for Those Who Have Experienced the Physical, Mental and Emotional Trauma of Miscarriage and Stillbirth – Maureen Rank – Written from a Christian perspective, the author offers guidance to the grieving and help toward the future.

Planning a Precious Goodbye – Sherokee Ilse and Susan Erling. – A unique booklet on planning a meaningful funeral or memorial service for a baby. Contains detailed burial and cremation information, sample services, suggested readings and songs. deRuyter-Nelson Publications and Wintergreen Press

The Bereaved Parent – Harriet Sarnoff Schiff, 1978 – Day-to-day decisions and hardships are confronted practically and with consolation. For parents and those who want to help them.

Hope for the Bereaved: Understanding, Coping and Growing Through Grief – Therese S. Schoeneck – A handbook of helpful articles written by bereaved people for bereaved people and those who want to help them.

 

SUBSEQUENT PREGNANCY

Still To Be Born – Pat and Kirk Schwiebert, 1986 – Contains help for parents faced with decisions about the future. How parents decided when to get pregnant again, their feelings about their unborn child during labor and bonding after birth

What Next? – Sherokee Ilse and Susan Erling – This booklet examines the choices and options available to couples after a pregnancy or infant loss. Contains information on subsequent pregnancy, adoption and child-free living. deRuyter-Nelson Publications and Wintergreen Press

The Shadow Of An Angel – Marion Cohen – From the trauma or neonatal loss and subsequent pregnancy to the heights of ultimate success.